Amor y otras cosas: A Couple of Thoughts on Marriage and Fear of Committing

• Amor y otras cosas discuss the fear of getting married and commitment.
• Jorge Luis offers a few pieces of advice to ponder these situations.
• Just because a person says «no» today does not mean it will always be so.

The dating world is a tricky one because every person is unique. When you are in a relationship, it’s natural that after a while, one might think about whether marriage is for them.

However, these subjects should be talked about early in a relationship. López Velarde notes that people often skip talking about marriage because they’re afraid of pushing their partner away.

Still, delaying this chat can cause trouble later, as the chance of the relationship going bad grows as time goes on.

People can change their minds about marriage over time. Just because someone has said no to the idea at first doesn’t mean they’ll never want to get married. Changing feelings and wants are normal in a long-term relationship.

She/He Doesn’t Want to Marry Me

Advice on talking to each other comes from the idea that the big problem of «they love me, but they don’t want to marry» is not talking well enough.

It is vital to always talk about these topics during the relationship and deal with any fights that start early on.

In a loving relationship, both people must take responsibility for what happens. You can’t have a «what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is yours» way of thinking since you’re together as a team.

Talking and fixing problems should be something both do together.

Fear of Getting Married

There are two common fears linked with marriage: being afraid of failing and being afraid of promising forever because of feeling bad about oneself.

These fears can make a person not want to marry and need to be talked about in the relationship.

López Velarde asks couples to think about the good things that marriage can give each of them.

He highlights that marriage can give emotional steadiness or the chance to give a safe place for the couple, depending on what each person needs.

It’s About Commitment Before Marriage

All relationships need work and chat. Instead of leaving the relationship when trouble happens, he suggests learning to chat and working together to fix problems well.

A good relationship is not only about finding the right person but also becoming someone who’s ready for a loving and stable relationship.

This means personal growth and always trying to get better for both people. If someone is not sure whether to stay or leave in a relationship where the partner doesn’t want to marry, the answer is usually to stay.

He insists that staying and trying in the relationship can lead to personal growth and a stronger bond over time.  Jorge Luis says goodbye to you and hopes these ideas will be useful. See you next time!